Monthly Archive for December, 2010

What to do with nagging kids?

Dr. Heitler was quoted today in “SheKnows Parenting” talking about overly persistent kids. Here’s a section of the article:

Someday, your child’s persistence may be one of her best attributes, but right now, she could be using it against you. “Repetition plus volume wear many parents down,” says Susan Heitler, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist and author of David Decides About Thumbsucking and The Power of Two. How do you resist? Heitler recommends “learning collaborative conflict resolution skills. If your kids, and you, have confidence that you can generally find win-win solutions, standing firm on occasional authority-based decisions becomes far easier.”

Why We Apologize Too Much, and How to Stop

See Dr. Susan Heitler quoted in Fitness Magazine.

Fitness

… People who grew up with critical, demanding parents or bullying siblings frequently apologize as a way to placate others and avoid confrontation. “Early in life, they discovered that expressing regret, whether they agreed with the criticism or not, caused the other person to calm down, and they’ve continued this behavior as they’ve gotten older,” explains Susan Heitler, PhD, a psychologist in Denver and coauthor of The Power of Two Workbook (New Harbinger Publications, 2003). Women who fall into this category often say “I’m sorry” to stop or prevent an argument with their partner. But by habitually jumping in with an apology, they set themselves up to be the one at fault. “If you’re the only one taking responsibility, it reinforces the idea that when things go wrong, you are the bad guy,” says Heitler.

Read the full article here: http://www.fitnessmagazine.com/health/spirit/your-best-you/why-we-apologize-too-much-and-how-to-stop/?page=2