Monthly Archive for August, 2012

How I beat postpartum depression

It was a very long four months for both my husband and I. Which four months? The last month of my pregnancy and the first three of my sons life.

The last month of pregnancy was long because I was huge, cranky and not sleeping. The first three months of our baby’s life were harder because on top of the exhaustion and pain of recovering from a c-section, I, the expert, got blind-sided by a serious dose of postpatrum depression.

I share this to emphasize that prepartum and postpartum depression can sneak up on anyone. Physical discomfort, lack of sleep, and all those hormones certainly are contributing factors. So too are less tangible experiences of feeling out of control-out of control of your body, of your baby’s schedule (or lack thereof!), or of your ability to get your feet back under you in general. Continue reading ‘How I beat postpartum depression’

Marriage and taxes: 7 tips for newlyweds

First comes love, then comes marriage, then come taxes! If you’re one of the thousands of new couples married this spring and summer, get ready to embark on the adventure of marriage and taxes. The federal government provides many financial benefits to married couples, an it can be a little confusing how to go about getting them. Here’s a rundown of who your need to update on your new marital status and how to do it.

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1. Social Security Administration One of the most essential things for marriage and taxes is to make sure you name and social security number match. If you’ve changed your name after getting married, be sure to alert the Social Security Administration. How: File Form SS-5, Application for a Social Security Card. The form is available on SSA’s website www.ssa.gov, by calling 800-772-1213, or visiting a SSA office. Continue reading ‘Marriage and taxes: 7 tips for newlyweds’

Strengthen marriage with a new perspective

Here’s a sweet letter sent out from our head coach, Dr. Abigail Hirsch, about how her new baby inspired a strengthen marriage tip. Dr. Hirsch gave birth to her fourth child five months ago. At the end of August we’ll be featuring a post from her about her experiences with postpartum depression. Enjoy!

 

Hello Power of Two Member,

Today was a big day in our house. Our five month old baby just got big enough to sit in a high chair at the table with the

strengthen marriage

Our children can teach us skills to strengthen marriage.rest of us. This new perspective was transformative. All of a sudden his three big brothers noticed him. For pretty much the first time they started chatting away with the little guy. And, he in turn found their stories so funny he couldn’t stop chortling.

What does this have to do with marriage? For me, it was a wonderful reminder how just a little shift in perspective can make a huge difference in how people relate to each other. Continue reading ‘Strengthen marriage with a new perspective’

The best articles of the week: on making decisions

This week I found some amazing articles on making decisions and how choice impacts our lives and mental state. Julie Jeske talks about changing your mind about big decisions, James McNulty challenges our notions of turning the other cheek, and a California study questions whether our choice in marriage partners really leaves us any happier than an arranged marriage. Be prepared to have your mind changed!

You Can Always Change Your Mind-Part I via Julie Jeske

http://www.juliejeske.com/2012/08/you-can-always-change-your-mind/

You and your partner will face making decisions in your lives, and the stress of the big choices can put considerable strain on your marriage. Julie Jeske offers some fantastic advice: You can always change your mind. In fact, “by feeling like you always have to “get it right” you can sometimes be so paralyzed by fear of “messing up” that you don’t take any action.” It’s not always easy, convenient, or cost free, but you can always change your mind. Next week Julie will go over how to fix a relationship if you feel like changing your mind about your marriage, and I’ll be definitely reading along. Continue reading ‘The best articles of the week: on making decisions’

How to apologize in 5 steps

A key skill for communication in a relationship is knowing how to apologize. What most people don’t know is that the key to apologizing well isn’t just saying “I’m sorry” and meaning it. Owning up to your mistakes is a big part of an apology (and the most challenging)-at the same time, to turn the upset into something productive and completely move on you need to bring subtle levels of soothing and clarity to the situation. In other words, it’s time to bring out the big guns: the 5-Step apology sequence.

Step 1: Express Regret

The first step of how to apologize is to honestly and clearly express how sorry you are to have hurt your spouse. Acknowledging the pain your partner is feeling will help her to dissolve that pain. Start with a simple “I’m sorry…” Continue reading ‘How to apologize in 5 steps’