Monthly Archive for May, 2013

In-laws can boost or break your marriage

Posted on May 16, 2013 in categories: Uncategorized. 0 Comments

This may come as no surprise to some people: new research has shown a link between how you get a long with your in-laws and chances for divorce. University of Michigan researcher Terri Orbuch began the study in 1986 when she recruited 373 newlywed couples. She had each spouse rate his and her “closeness” with the in-laws and then followed the couples for the next 26 years.

Orbuch found that when a man reported having a close relationship with his wife’s parents, the couple’s risk of divorce decreased by 20%. Yet women who said they had a close relationship with their husbands’ parents saw their risk of divorce rise by 20%. Continue reading ‘In-laws can boost or break your marriage’

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25 Happy mothers day quotes!

Posted on May 10, 2013 in categories: Uncategorized. 0 Comments

Mothers Day is a great idea - although, of course, every day should be mother’s day! Being a mom is tough work and it is a beautiful thing to recognize that. Sometimes it can be hard to put your feelings into words, and that’s where these Happy Mothers Day quotes come in. Enjoy these 25 happy Mothers Day quotes. Try hand writing one down on a nice piece of paper and leaving on her pillow or on the breakfast table. Continue reading ’25 Happy mothers day quotes!’

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4 things you need to know to navigate marriage and retirement

Posted on May 8, 2013 in categories: Communication, Depression, Divorce, Marriage in the News, Money and Marriage, Naomi and Older adults. 0 Comments

Divorce rates for couples over 50 are rising. The culprit? Marriage and retirement. Retirement represents one of the biggest life changes since graduating college or having children. This complete rearrangement of your daily routine, social status, and perceived purpose in life has the potential to put untold stress on your marriage. Here are some tips for navigating the waters of marriage and retirement in a way that preserves your strength as a couple and steers you clear from the turbulence of divorce.

1. Marriage and Retirement Planning

One of the biggest problems starts with pre-retirement planning. As we prepare for retirement, we often make lots of mental plans about what and how to do it. When these develop in our minds and don’t share them with our spouses, we are setting our marriage and retirement up for miscommunication, disappointment and conflict. Continue reading ‘4 things you need to know to navigate marriage and retirement’

Categories: Communication, Depression, Divorce, Marriage in the News, Money and Marriage, Naomi and Older adults

8 beliefs that are actually terrible advice on marriage

Posted on May 3, 2013 in categories: Marriage Prep/Engagement, Marriage Q&A and Self Help. 0 Comments

Much “commonsense” advice on marriage doesn’t actually make sense when you look at it closely. Here are 8 common beliefs about marriage that are counterproductive to a happy relationship, if not down-right harmful! If you have been experiencing marriage difficulties, check to see if any of these bad pieces of advice on marriage may be at the root of the problems.

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Bad advice on marriage #1: My spouse has to go to counseling with me or it won’t work.

Actually, one spouse can carry a lot of sway in a relationship and, on her own, turn around a failing marriage. Power of Two has been shown in studies to be just as effective as counseling when both spouses go. At some point you’ll need to get your spouse on board and working on his own contribution to the marriage. At the same time, he can be gently led into this by following your example of increasing positivity, practicing better communication skills, and initiating intimacy. Continue reading ‘8 beliefs that are actually terrible advice on marriage’

Categories: Marriage Prep/Engagement, Marriage Q&A and Self Help